theplumtree: Alice Pattullo
The problem is that white people see racism as conscious hate, when racism is bigger than that. Racism is a complex system of social and political levers and pulleys set up generations ago to continue working on the behalf of whites at other people’s expense, whether whites know/like it or not. Racism is an insidious cultural disease. It is so insidious that it doesn’t care if you are a white person who likes black people; it’s still going to find a way to infect how you deal with people who don’t look like you. Yes, racism looks like hate, but hate is just one manifestation. Privilege is another. Access is another. Ignorance is another. Apathy is another. And so on. So while I agree with people who say no one is born racist, it remains a powerful system that we’re immediately born into. It’s like being born into air: you take it in as soon as you breathe. It’s not a cold that you can get over. There is no anti-racist certification class. It’s a set of socioeconomic traps and cultural values that are fired up every time we interact with the world. It is a thing you have to keep scooping out of the boat of your life to keep from drowning in it. I know it’s hard work, but it’s the price you pay for owning everything.
in latin instead of saying “i love you” you don’t say anything because it’s a dead language. nothing. i think that’s beautiful. just shut the fuck up
i get that it can be hard for parents to accept that their child is gay, bi, trans etc. it’s okay if they need some time to adjust.
however, it’s their problem and we should never excuse abuse, misgendering, erasure, or any kind of harmful behavior especially if you say “but it’s hard for them…
don’t let anyone tell you how or to what degree you should identify with your culture. it doesn’t matter where you were born, where your parents were born, when you/they emigrated.
your experiences and feelings are valid, no matter how conflicting, dissonant, or confusing.
your identity can change. and you do not have to explain yourself to others.
I don’t see you as gay, bisexual or straight. I see you as you.
My therapist (via somewhereinbaltimore)
I really like this
This is bullshit, i am gay, dont erase my sexuality just to ~see me as me~ i can be gay and a person jfc
This passive homophobic bullshit pisses me off
"Not seeing the gay" "dont see you as black" "your basically a guy" this bullshit needs to stop, seriously